How does anger affect us?

This is a more in-depth thought process behind anger and how it affects us in different ways and how we handle it.

So, everyone experiences anger at some point and time during their life, quite frequently for a lot of people. But what causes it and what are the side affects for us?

For me specifically, anger makes me really sad, I tend to turn anger into self hatred. I don't like expressing anger towards people who don't deserve it so when I can't handle it then it turns into a self targeted attack on myself.

This type of anger can very easily cause depression in people because they are always attacking themselves with all their negative feelings and don't have a proper outlet. But what about people with external anger?

People with external anger tend to express whatever displeased them right away and target the source of the anger, this is a very quick release to the anger and mentally probably the most healthy, but the issue is controlling the level of that anger.

If you get too angry, or become overly expressive towards something people would consider minor, it could really ruin relationships or make people who saw the outburst think a lot less of you.

Anger overall is generally nothing more then a negative emotion, no positive feelings really ever come from anger. I'm not saying it's not possible for something positive to come from getting angry but anger itself generally is very negative.Have you ever had a positive angry feeling? Leave a comment if you have, I'm really interested to hear what you have to say.

But what about what causes anger? This again is very subjective to the person in question. For a lot of us we generally have a set of rules on how to live and what angers us is generally anything outside the scope of those rules.

Here are a few simple examples that can be commonly seen in public: Bringing a child to a restaurant, to a lot of people, is extremely annoying if the child is really loud.

Pets, seems strange but some people are just outright against people owning pets, and some people just don't like pets because of the general amount of work when taking care of them.

What really annoys me and makes me angry sometimes is when people mess up my food, I'm a bit of a food fanatic and love to eat so when my food is wrong it completely ruins the experience. I logically tell myself that mistakes happen and that it's not their fault and I shouldn't get angry and time moves forward.

Another thing that bothers me is when people smoke in a public place, most restaurants and other places have banned smoking but for the places that still let people smoke inside. Just seems a bit insensitive to me that people don't care how much it bothers the people around them when they smoke.

What makes you angry? How do you deal with it? Why do you deal with things the way you do? Have you ever thought about it seriously before? Leave a comment, let me know what you think.