Love and Relationships, how and why we are involved

From the perspective of a normal day with normal people with normal marriages, what is a relationship? Really, how do you define who you love and want to marry and who you just want to hang out with on the weekend.

It seems really strange the way we as people think about some things like that. The human mind is very interesting in the sense that we all think about relationships differently.

People marry for different reasons, some people marry because of safety, the person they are with makes them feel very safe and secure. This could be because during their life they never really had anything stable and it makes them feel comfortable to finally have that feeling.

There are also people who marry others who are completely different from them for the very reason that they are different. They like being around someone who isn't like them or their friends, someone who can be refreshing in their life and someone they will never tire of.

Yes, there are those who marry for money, but honestly I'm not going to discuss that because that's not a real marriage or love, just greed. Those people aren't good subjects to talk about when discussing real relationships and will be avoided. Though if you are one of those people you are free to give your opinion on the subject of course. :)

Then there is just that perfect couple, the two who married just because they clicked. There is nothing that they don't agree with and they are always having fun together and love their life every second of the way.

But how do people find that magic, the part of them that they want to spend their life with forever. That too is different for everyone.

Some people go out to singles meetings which is a cool idea. If you join a singles group for something like hiking because you like going hiking then you are already put in an environment with people who have a similar interest too you. If this sounds like your way of doing things I strongly recommend looking around google for a local group that you can join.

Some people just go to places like bars and just "play slots" almost with people and just see if one of them will go out with them. I personally don't see this as a very effective way to find a "loving" relationship because you are most likely selecting people based on appearance and that seems more like a lustful relationship instead of a loving relationship plan. But that is obviously just my opinion, you might think otherwise.

A lot of happily married people I have had the pleasure of meeting and talking with however, met through pure chance and accident. To rely on such an accident to happen to you is unrealistic because it's a random encounter, but maybe that is part of the magical moment. This is something that can only happen if you are open to talking to people you encounter, being closed off will lead to knowing no one, and knowing no one will lead to loneliness, not just in a relationship but in friendships as well.